How delightfully sensitive and authentic we are – in the beginning. Then, brick by brick, we start building up a wall and alienating ourselves from - ourselves. Each experience, when we are not seen fully in our true expression, starts shaping our perception of ourselves. We start blocking our being and the energetic field around us to match the expectations of those who care for us. Who love us - in their own deficient way. Involuntarily our beloved, caretakers, parents, hurt us, limit us and shape us into the form, which is expected by the external world. Building up an accumulation of hurts, feelings and emotions of not being heard, noticed, attended to, loved. Not in the way we needed to be loved. It is a mixed bag of positive and negative conclusions of the child. Sometimes called wounds. The brain remembers mostly the negatives ones – the hurts, the neglects, the suffering. Making us build a survival strategy for the surrounding world based on these misconception of the child, the conclusions of the child awareness.
Instead of the open, sensitive, curious attitude towards life, we start performing. Yes, we create from the tamed version of ourselves. We experience pain, hardship, compromises as this is what we have learned… and this becomes our balance. And our beautiful world becomes a reflection of this, added with some negative pleasure. Our surrounding society, media, world echoes these expectations.
Yet there is a way out of this. There is a way Into relationships that are filled with acceptance, caring, compassion and mercy. Loving relationships towards everything and everybody who enters our world. At every moment it is possible to turn hurt to hurt into heart to heart. Stop judging, whining, complaining, selling ourselves short, blaming …and start living from deep connection to ourselves, to our soul which is connected to our truth and integrity. Whether it is in relationship to ourselves or to our beloved ones.